Psychologus
Being ‘nice’ is generally not an issue. Most people do like polity and someone who is soft-spoken. Indeed, psychological research shows that someone who is high in agreeableness (one of the big 5 personality traits) is more likely to have a healthier intimate relationship with their partner. However, being a ‘nice guy’ in an environment […]
Joe Goldberg, the infamous protagonist of Netflix’s You, has captivated and horrified audiences with his chilling charm and obsessive pursuit of love (to put it mildly). But underneath Joe’s excessive behaviors (mostly stalking, killing, manipulating) lies a psyche shaped by trauma. By looking at Joe’s beliefs about himself, others, and the world, I hope to […]
What is the difference between a psychologist and psychiatrist? When you’re struggling with your mental health or trying to support someone who is, knowing where to turn can be confusing. You might have heard the terms “psychiatrist” and “psychologist” used interchangeably but they’re not the same. Both professionals are trained to help people manage mental […]
Human nature and consciousness have been instrumental in the development of the world as we know now. The advancements humans have made from studying behavior have led to laws, technology and creating intelligent artificial beings from carefully crafted systems tools. What has made all of this possible? Experimental science. The study of consciousness has remained […]
Why This Difference Matters You’re going through something heavy. A breakup, burnout, grief—doesn’t matter what. And someone, probably well-meaning, says, “At least it’s not worse,” or “Everything happens for a reason.” You nod politely… but deep down, it stings. You don’t feel seen. You definitely don’t feel comforted. And now, on top of the pain, […]
Letting go doesn’t start with moving on it starts with being honest about what still hurts. And that’s not always easy.Sometimes, you’re not even sure what you’re holding onto. You just feel the weight of something a memory, a conversation, a version of yourself sitting quietly in the background of your life. It might be […]
It’s okay to need someone. Really. Not in a clingy way. Not in a “you complete me” fairytale way. Just… in a raw, human way. In the “life feels lighter when you’re not carrying it alone” kind of way. Somewhere along the line, needing others got rebranded as weakness. As if asking for help makes […]
For decades, the “hard problem” of consciousness has remained a mystery. Psychology and cognitive science have progressed, but the mechanics of consciousness still seem to elude us. After all, it is not easy to answer how physical matter could give rise to subjective experience. In The Architecture of Awareness: Decoding Consciousness, Charles R.W. Sears argues […]
The Quiet Power of Self-Respect You’ve heard it before. “Respect yourself.” “Stop settling.” “Know your worth.” But no one ever really told you how.They didn’t tell you how blurry it gets when love is involved.They didn’t warn you how easy it is to slowly, quietly shrink to fit inside someone else’s comfort zone. It doesn’t […]
Ever met a woman who overthinks every text, avoids eye contact like it’s cursed, and has a mini existential crisis when someone moves her coffee mug an inch to the left? But like, she still shows up looking like she’s got it all together? Yeah… plot twist: she’s not high-maintenance, dramatic, or “just anxious.” She […]