A friend is a being that is there when you require help.
Now imagine something or someone that provides you with exactly the things you lack at the time.
You’re feeling bored? This friend provides you a lot of entertainment to witness and talk about!
You don’t feel good? This friend gives you a million things to watch and laugh at.
You feel heartbroken? This friend provides you with countless pieces of advice – often pretty contradictory.
But most of all, this friend provides you with exactly what you think you want.
And what we think we want is often not really what we require.
So, in this article, I will be talking about a few reasons why your phone is not your friend.
Easy Access to Lies
In your low mood, you can always pick up your phone, go on instagram, or facebook or tiktok and you would instantly see many people seemingly living their lives to the fullest.
Living their lives as no human can.
The simple fact of the matter is that social media portrays a very distorted version of reality. Everyone is often at their best – or worst – behavior and image.
Does a friend lie to you?
They certainly should not! I am not talking about the probability of whether a friend would lie to you or not. Rather the concept of a friend is someone who wishes you well.
Your phone, however, is not your friend.
Then what is your phone exactly?
Unhealthy Addictions
Simply put, social media, smartphones or any kind of technological devices are simply tools to help you perform specific functions. There is no ethical or moral substrate of such devices. However, what they can lead to is the main problem.
Vape pods were considered an innovation of technology. They were shown as a new way to help smokers quit tobacco! However, recently these pods are being banned across Europe because they have actually got many teenagers hooked on nicotine!
This was a device for helping people. But it ended up enabling an entire generation towards nicotine addiction.
Your smartphone on the other hand does not hand out just one problem.
This device, unlike the vape pods cannot be banned. Moreover, it has become a part of daily life. You need your phone to order food, get a cab, navigate the map, prepare and conduct meetings in the workplace. But just a few clicks away, there lie many of the most addictive applications ever created. These apps have been proven by research to induce stressful habits.
Among the myriad of issues, social comparison, anxiety, depression, loneliness are just a few of them.
Lower Productivity
If you’re spending so much time on your phone, using social media, you are automatically letting it eat up your time to be productive!
Research has shown that social media usage drops employees’ productivity significantly. No wonder you are not able to get your tasks done on time! And even if you somehow get them done – think about how much better you can perform your tasks or go on new ventures just by using that time lost to social media!
Smartphone Addiction Can Mess up Social Interactions
Ever wonder why some of your elders complain about young people always being on the phone?
Well, try to get an important point across to someone who cannot maintain eye contact because they think something on their phone is more interesting.
Interesting does not equal to important. This is just one way constantly being on your phone messes up social interactions.
“The Machine is much, but it is not everything. I see something like you in this plate, but I do not see you. I hear something like you through this telephone, but I do not hear you. That is why I want you to come. Pay me a visit, so that we can meet face to face, and talk about the hopes that are in my mind.” (E. M. Forster, The Machine Stops).
While phones can be a tool to facilitate interactions, they reduce the human, irrational and emotional aspect of communication which is natural for us. Emotional expression serves an important function in our communication with other people.
Emojis may be able to give a surface level understanding of what you are feeling. But it cannot convey the entire emotion. Or the gravity of what you are talking about.
Conclusion
Our phones are devices that help us communicate. But unlike older times, they now also serve as portals to other people’s (slightly to highly) distorted presentation of the world. In fact, they have become a world in themselves because of the sheer amount of information they can give us access to.
But they are not a substitute for organic experiences. Much of the world is still organic. The food that we order, the cab driver we call, the people we see online – all are living inside an organic reality.
Let us not let our phones fool us into a world where we can access, download, delete and log out of any situation that we so desire.